Sure, you do tick me off. I'm not sure that is a secret to anybody. You belittle people under the guise of being helpful because they haven't found a place of peace or comfort quite as fast as you have.
And really, I am happy for you that you didn't have to be wrapped up in a very difficult legal/financial battle (and please pardon me if that is not the case and things are difficult for you in a legal sense). In fact, I wouldn't wish some of the difficult legal/financial battles on anybody under any circumstance. I find it very difficult to articulate just how frightening it is.
You were married for a year and together for a very short time in the grand scheme of life. I'm not going to judge what you want through on the emotional level even though your marriage was short. But, in the eyes of the law you have a "young marriage" and many of the procedures/policies that those of us with "vintage marriages" (over 10 yrs) have to endure are much, much different and very difficult.
Do I get angry for me and the people I hold dear that they have to go through a horrifying process? Sure. I really do. I also get scared for all of us. I know myself I almost lost a kidney in the height of my legal phase and it scared me. It scares me each day that today might be the day the stress kills me and I fall out of remission.
And maybe you have never lived any of those scenarios. I hope you have not because they are scary. Very, very scary. So maybe to you we are a bunch of bitter wimps and that is fine. But you don't have to keep pointing out how useless we are the way you do.
