I go through the same feelings sometimes (well, almost every day). I can't tell if it's a self-protection thing, or what. I think that it's just the rose-colored glasses being removed. Not fog. Seeing the relationship and your partner more clearly.
For example, while I think I've made huge personal strides, I don't see the same self-eval in my wife. She's trying, and sometimes has a little break through, and she acts much better than before, showing me so much more respect than in the past.
But her big demons, she doesn't go near. There be dragons...
So it's worrisome thinking that some of the core issues of our relationship aren't being worked on.
