Then, on top of that to lose everything you had worked for to provide for your family for a decade... can you just stop and see why it might be terribly, terribly difficult?
I can see why it might be difficult, but dwelling on bad feelings is only punishing yourself. Find a way to change things or accept what is happening.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-