Makes me wish reality was more like "Shallow Hal" where when he was under the suggestion he saw people for how they really were. Burn victims were beautiful, his girlfriend was pretty and the petty girls he thought he liked before were sort of like witches.
Hope they find your friends dad.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I can imagine how upset you must be re: explosive meeting last week. I would be too but at least your mom called you and perhaps from that angle you can call your little sis? I know it feels unfair but sometimes it's not worth the stress and fighthing when at a deeper level you obviously care about eachother. I'm sure you guys will work it out and concentrate on resolving the issue at hand.
Sorry to hear about K's best friend's dad. I hope they find him and I hope he's OK.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Since you like to laugh, Sol, here is one for you...
In Nov. of 2007 (my H left in March of 2008) we went to a hockey game and I sat next to OW. LOL! Of course I had no clue at the time. And D treated her so poorly and then went on and on to me about what a slut she was and how everybody at work hated her.
It should have been a red flag to me (duh, stupid me, lol!) because in the decade plus I have known D he NEVER spoke ill of people he worked with.
My H (and his co-workers and she was the assistant to the assistant) get tix to just about any event happening. It's a very social company.
Some of this stuff I do laugh at now because it's all so ridiculous. But it has taken some time to see *any* part of this as amusing. I am sure my H was sh*itting himself during that game, lol!
My attny and my C has been preparing me for this next phase for some time. It will happen how it will I suppose. If I knew then what I know now... well, things might have panned out differently!
I do feel I am MUCH better prepared for the last phase of our legalities. Honestly, I am slightly terrified.. okay, I am REALLY terrified but I have a much better understanding this time around of why certain things need to happen.
This is sort of my space to say every crazy thought that enters my mind. Much of the stuff that happened I had mentally blocked out and it's only with the help of my C that I am starting to remember and process them all. My C said that when you reach a certain level of internal trauma your brain helps you by blocking out certain things. It's only in the past few months where bits and pieces of things are coming back to me - and they come back in bits and flashes at very odd times (while I am shopping, walking the dog). I know when this happens I can go one of two ways... back to anxiety (no!) or use my tools (C, outlets, humor and the many other things I have learned).
I joke about things that are really not funny but c'mon - I can process one way or be pacing for another 12 hours in a state of utter anxiety.
I have made LOTS of mistakes but the one thing I am forever proud of myself is getting my panic disorder to the point it is now. It's not "fixed" but it's 8 million times better.
I do feel I am MUCH better prepared for the last phase of our legalities.
Always a plus. All of the legalities can be very overwhelming and terrifying but it's good that you are more well-versed in the law now than before. It does help immensely.
How is your IC going? Feeling panicky is never fun and I also agree... it's more fun to joke about something than be depressed over it. Like someone says here... Let go or be dragged.
I tend to use humor a lot to deflect painful situations, memories, etc. I figure you can laugh or cry, so I try to choose laughter when I can.
I used to socialize fairly regularly with ow. She was ex's coworker. When we went to work functions we would all sit at the same table (ow and her H, me and my exH); then after we would go out to the bar with a group from work. She bought me shots a few different times and even invited me to go on a "girls' night" with her and her friends. Then-H got all in a tizzy about that, said he didn't want me getting drunk and saying something embarrassing about him. Now, I am guessing he didn't want her to say something incriminating!
Early on that was one of the most upsetting things, to me. Not just that he cheated on me. But that every time she sat by me, talked to me, bought me a drink, I KNOW she was laughing at me on the inside bc she knew she was sleeping with my H. And the fact that it didn't upset him to see her taunting me, basically, well for some reason that hurt as much as the cheating.
Oh well, the past is the past. As Garth says in Wayne's World, "Live in the Now!!!"
