I do wonder what would happen if you took a lower paying job closer to home. Would you be exactly where you are now? I mean of course she will get a lower amount but proportions would stay the same I am guessing. If she isn't making it now, she won't make it with less and would force her to get a better job. You at least wouldn't be spending all of this time commuting just to pay her.
Ok just a thought. Call me crazy!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory