Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Phone call completed.

We say hello.

I say what's up?

W: "Well, mutual friend gave me the hard sell this morning."

Me: What's that suppose to mean?

W: MF told me about the changes you've made and how happy and insightful I have grown to be"

Me: OK, so what does that mean?

Pause....1 minute of silence.

W: I want to talk about us

Me OK, What do you want to talk about?

Agian silence....

W: Forget it, Ummm, I want to talk about the kids and what you're saying to them. D5 was asking me about me changing my name. Where does a child come up with a statement like that.

Me: Honestly W, I don't say anything about us to the kids except enjoy your time with each of us and we both love you.

That finally led to talking about us.

I ask W what do you want? She said I want you and the family back.

We talk about things tha happened in the past. How she tried to talk to me about this before. I asked WHEN? Apparntly when I cancelled the meeting with her a few weeks ago with her she wanted to talk to me about us. I said you just wanted to talk about co-parenting and I said I was perfectly fine with parenting.

Skipping some stuff.... but then we talk about the problems, and that she she had. The only one she had an issue with was me not sleeping in bed. 9 times out of 10 I ended up on the couch.
(for those who have read from the begining, I had extreme anxiety and sleep disorders which cause me sleepless nights)
That effected our physical R.

She said she need to know if that could be different and that all the other issues can be worked on.

Told W that I addressed all the issues I had pertaining to my health but I didn't have time to go into it now.Also I said I worked hard on myself the past year.

She did admit seeing changes but then saw some old bahavior which confused her.

She talked about the kids at the beach and how they wanted me to be there to see them riding their boogie boards.
She also admitted to missing me this summer down there.

She was crying at times during the convo, I didremain in control of my emotions through the entire talk.

I'm sure I'm missing some stuff..

OH yeah, I asked W, What makes you happy???
She said She didn't know. I said you need to find what makes you happy. I said you have had this aura of unhappiness about you for the past year and it's unattractive. So find out what make mrs. gr8 happy.
I will support you any way I can, I want you to be happy.

She asked me if we could talk about the issue regarding my health. I said I can't do it now but I am free Friday if she wanted to meet or talk.

There is trust issues on both sides.

When she brought up old times I told her that was the old me.
Honestly I have never had a more powerful convo with my W then this call.

I did say to her that I know what I want nowand if it's not with her it WILL be with someone else. Not a thread, just know what I want in a healthy R now.



Talk about OM and OW never came up. Should it? I didn't betray my friends trust by bringing it up. I am a man of my word.

I have so much to think about my head is spinning.

Sorry to be all over the place.


Addition here: I forgot this:

during our discussion she said I would be the person I am today if this didn't happen to me.
I think she jusitfying her choice to leave to make light of the seriousness.
I told her that was an unfair statement. I have no idea what would/could have happened if things went differently

robx, have you any ensights or words of wisdom?