Perhaps the suffering ends with acceptance while pain ("the hurt") can only diminish and recede with time.
Yeah, I think that's it. Acceptance is definitely necessary for all this to be processed and to be able to move on. Without it, you just spin your wheels and go...nowhere, perpetually stuck in a state of misery.
I think I resemble(d) that remark... Fake it till you make it only works in the short term. Long term, if you are still going through the motions of moving on, that's when you are suffering...
hmm something to think on for sure. So assuming that acceptance leads to painfree/hurtfree life how do we get moving towards acceptance. Like I said I believed and still do that I have done a good job on me---however tough that was though is nothing to seeing my S3 (today is his birthday btw!!) cry or act confused/scared b/c he is not sure which way he is going and where he is going to, or with whom........grr......that really irks me and has really thrown me for a loop lately.
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
I think you are doing a good job of accepting it already, buffet. You went through the D, you have stated to your ex what you will/won't tolerate and the rest is history.
It would be worse if you were still waiting, hoping for her to come back and letting her walk all over you. That is not accepting. That is standing in the middle of a damn hurricane coming straight at you and doing nothing but smiling at it like it's not real. You have accepted what's happened. To me, she is the one who hasn't which explains all of her waffling and inability to admit she is with the OM. It's actually really sad, in a way. It's pathetic.
Originally Posted By: BobbiJo
Fake it till you make it only works in the short term.
Oh, I love this, Bobbi. Needs to go in the DB quotes thread.
I think the key to acceptance is to know at this moment your ex will also tell you what you want hear while doing the same self destructive things in her/their lives.
Do not expect anything from her and do not accept bad behavior that you know will more than likely be coming from an active wayward.
Fake it till you make it only works in the short term. Long term, if you are still going through the motions of moving on, that's when you are suffering...