Thanks for all the support! It means the world to me!
As I have mentioned legally there is nothing I can do until Nov. 19th as that is our one year mark.
What he says doesn't mess with my head but it does show me he is clueless or simply has no regard for my feelings. I do believe he thought we would be past this by now ('cause he told me, lol!) but he had yet to even apologize to me for anything. There has been no sorrow or remorse.
Him not wanting a divorce simply comes down to health insurance and what he will have to pay. Period. If he would just even be honest about that things might be different.
The thing is... I *did* the work to get out of this marriage and did NOT leave through the back door like he did. Obviously nobody aims to be divorced but I did all I could do and that is that.
Once Nov. 19th rolls around (or Dec. 1 since I will be away) I will have the final dissolution drawn up and served. He can agree or not, his legal choice.
It's too bad if things are not going well with OW. Had he taken a step back and not destroyed his finances and lied to his whole family about "her" then maybe he could have made better choices. Or maybe they are happy as can be. It's not my job though to make his life comfortable with "her".
The evil side of me has to laugh - she has demanded D never talk to me again - she sure as hell won't be happy when SHE has to declare her income under "household" to help pay for my health insurance. I doubt she will be pleased her earnings will go to me
My mom called y'day and we had a talk about the explosive meeting we had last week (RE: my father's estate). I guess we sort of came to an understanding but now she wants ME to call my sister and apologize. She wants us to come over on Wed. for a meeting but said my sister and I have to talk first. Of course, my sister won't make the first move. This situation has been upsetting beyond belief.
My dear friend K has been dealing with a terrible tragedy. His best friend from childhood had his father go missing. He went missing last Wed. and today is the last day they will be searching with the helicopters/dogs before the call it a recovery effort. The story has been on the news non stop. The police thing this man is "lost" in a huge state park. He was very depressed and went off his medication. He left his W a bunch of signed checks and money. It's all so sad.
I so dislike when I wake up on a Monday and stress is just running through my body. Ugh!
