Shakedown Street

[ImprovedRomeo]

Your only response required is..."We both know why we must severe the marriage and there is nothing left to discuss. Please be so kind to respect my wishes of maintaining minimal or no contact and granting my freedom from being married to you."

Problem is this guy doesn't listen or care, he lives in his own little world. He'll come back whining how he's upset that CG's not talking to him and how him and CG should've been dating again by now. Of course, CG may still have feelings for him...how can you not after being together for so long and being the LBS so hearing him say stuff like that must totally mess with you. He either does this on purpose as a control thing or he really is so clueless about what he's done. Regardless it is very very cruel of him to even spew this sort of bullsh!t. Worse yet there seems to be no easy way of stopping him other than getting a restraining order against him or some other legal way of keeping him away which could affect the current separation agreement that orders the two of them to communicate- which he takes full advantage of when it suits him.

He was quiet for a while and now all this talk why? because things are probably falling apart with OW and he misses his best friend to offer him support and advice. Again, extremely selfish and self-centered. The only thing I can suggest for now is to ignore him...I know he whines and gets upset about you not communicating with him but the communication should be limited to legal matters only- in my humble opinion. I know he's masterful at mixing both legal and non-legal BS together so the only thing you can do is filter out the non-legal BS and only respond to the legal stuff. I know you've tried all these things but it's either this or just letting time take care of it.

I still think there has to be a way to hold his feet to the fire by serving him with a trial date. Once he's served he has to comply. Sure his lawyer will ask for extention but after a few times he will have to appear I don't care if you have diplomatic immunity a court order is a court order.