. Honestly if you've read my sitch from the beginning I am starting to wonder whether my W was in MLC before we met. (Fellow DBr) put forth that theory to me. That would mean that I was OM # 2 She had a relationship between her exH and me.
This was me ^^^^^
CD I would not be posting to you if I didn't have faith in you.
I wouldn't be challenging you like this if I didn't see you searching and wanting to heal and grow.
This was never on the boards but I will share this with you becuase to be honest it was the most amazing things to ever happen to me the day I understood this:
Originally Posted By: wise DBr
That does not let you off the hook on this. The further you go down this road, whether you were OM2 or OM 6.....there was a reason she was attracted to you. And you can STILL be that guiding light for her....
and then this...
Originally Posted By: Wise DBr to TG
So you found your footing, with her help ? I think so Truegritter.......RIGHT F@CKING NOW , she is helping you....
This may have been the path that God wanted you to walk all along, and you got distracted along the way.....
My point is.....what you are doing right now....is a gift from her to you. When you can clearly see that ? You are on your way.....
Originally Posted By: CD
I'd never been the "rescuer" before. Not a pattern of mine. I'm not sure what you are suggesting.
Neither was I BUT there was rescuing behavior and it became part of the dysfucntion of my M. You have to dig to find why this was what you brought.
It doesn't matter what has happened.
It doesn't matter what didn't work.
It doesn't matter if she ever wakes up or not.
What matters is what you do.
Who you choose to be.
There is a gift for you down the path and it may be hard to open but you will be glad you did.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
