First of all, sorry to hear about the email. Second of all, your trip didn't "accelerate" his decision it. What he wrote is coming from him and not you. You guys have been having problems for awhile and remember he "unmarried" you via FB and didn't even know about your trip. He sounds immature. He couldn't even call you to tell you in person?
I can't say that I didn't see it coming but I hoped we wouldn't get to this point. Hell, this is the reason why I'm on this forum. The remarks "We shouldn't have gotten married" or "I don't think this marriage will last long" that he made when he was angry/upset/in a bad mood were sort of telling. Of course we had some issues but it wasn't anything that we couldn't work on. But he seems to see everything in black and white - even with his job - he hates it and says there's nothing positive about it.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
Ris, I've been at this for a long time and although I heard the same stories and the divorce threats, it's yet to happen. Actions, not words are what counts!
I haven't replied and no, he didn't mention Ls. All he said was "I want a divorce."
I mentioned this thing about his job because it shows how he just views it one-dimensionally. I wrote this earlier but I think it describes the problem well:
Originally Posted By: ris
I think that my H is very confused. He's unhappy with his life/job/himself and I guess he's trying to find a culprit. The thing is that there isn't one. It's not that there's something fundamentally wrong with our relationship, but he won't be happy with it until he's happy with himself. At the moment I'm the scapegoat.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
