On two ends of the world..

[ris]

Thank you Time How fitting I think I focused completely on the present without thinking about any further than the current moment. But even with this positive approach I need to consider the future now and decide what to do.

I think that my H is very confused. He's unhappy with his life/job/himself and I guess he's trying to find a culprit. The thing is that there isn't one. It's not that there's something fundamentally wrong with our relationship, but he won't be happy with it until he's happy with himself. At the moment I'm the scapegoat.

I would like to tell him that, nicely. And that I'm not his enemy, in fact we're on the same side. I'm not out to get him. Which he's acting like I am. And when he repeatedly stomps on me, I pull away. But it's not to hurt him, only to protect myself.

I don't know if telling him this would help. Based on previous experiences, if his rage has subsided then yes, but if he's still blinded by it then no. Any thoughts on what to do now about this whole mess?

The reason why I don't want to go dark is his misconception about it. If he thinks that I'm doing that to hurt him, he will retaliate - as on the enclosed picture.