Abusive spouse accuses "WAW" as "the" problem

[freespirit]

I think I am going to have to get a L soon; for child care reasons...here is an excerpts from an email from my "h".

*****Hi Darling: No matter how many people you distort facts with, lie to, or get on your side to gang up against me to get me to change....( I will not) -- I would not have understood the kind of mental problems you suffer from with that causes your distortion of facts that have made me into some sort of horrible enemy. You claim I have been verbally and emotionally abusive toward you. You alienated me from all our mutual friends by telling them distorted facts and lies that suited your purpose. I've patiently suffered this sort of behavior from you for eleven years, with only occasional complaints and arguments, of which you say, are abusive toward you. You have stopped all communications with me. I'm sending you this email to let you know where things are heading because I am still the dutiful husband. On November 28th, 2010 that is due to change. I will leave this state of limbo I have given you as a grace period and I will begin to make decisions that affect my life -- even if those decisions may affect you negatively.
Your anger has driven you to alienate everyone from your life who could or would help you. If you continue in your current path and become ship wrecked -- I won't be there after November 28th, and the way back will become more and more impossible as time passes.*****

He appears to be loving and gracious and what he is doing is "trying to let go" of his responsibilities to me and dyny all of his past (and current as you can see)behavior and how I have BEGGED him for YEARS to get counseling and for us to counsel about how to reconcile; there has been NO talk of reconciling. He accuses and blames me for HIS failure to honor me as his wife and "Live life" with me with respect.

I am glad that he is making the decision to go on...I have NOT given him any false hopes. I have told him that I would ONLY talk with him in the presence of two trusted Pastors and he REFUSED. He chose NOT to counsel and reconcile.