Took D2 to toddler gymnastic class Sat AM then did the assistant coach thing for my D5's team on Saturday (she and they did great!). Afterwards, went to D5 ballet class. Crazy Sat AM. At some point during these activities, W (who comes to the activities separately) said to me that she didn't want me to think that she didn't think about moving back in. She said she was thinking about it all the time, really alot lately. I said "uh huh." Then she said that there would need to be alot of changes in the house to get rid of the bad associations she had with it. I said, "Tell me more about what you mean." Then she listed off a bunch of remodeling things she would want to do including knocking down a pony wall, that it would need to look physically different but she loved the location of the house and the lot and didn't want us to just get a new house. I said, well, if it ever came to it, that would be something I'd be willing to discuss with her, that I was all about knocking down walls. Then she said something like she wasn't there yet and she wasn't sure if she ever would be. I then changed the subject.
She later asked me if I would fill up her car with gas for her cause it was low, and I said no way, girl, you got two legs and kind of laughed at her. Then she said (kidding sort of flirting) that she hated me and went to go fill it up herself.
That night I went out with one of my buds and a couple of his friends downtown. We had a few beers then went to some club where we met these really cute girls in town from Arizona who were having a bachelorette party. Flirted, played, and danced with them most of the night. Loads of fun. Ridiculous to get 1000x as much affection, flirting, and attention from 20- and 30-something girls you just meet as compared to your W.
This AM I took D2 and D5 to their swimming lessons. At the "switch," W invited me to go grocery shopping with her and said I could "help control the little ones." I said no, I was busy. Then she asked me if I could drop off a pie mold and rolling pin from the house on my way to where I was going, and I said fine. Dropped them off and she asked me to have lunch with her and the girls. I started to eat some leftovers real quick out of a tupperware, and she starts telling me about something a (guy) friend of hers said to her that morning that bothered her. This is one of the guys on FB that she talks alot with and that I have wondered sort of has an EA (but not sexual) quality to it. I guess the guy has a new girlfriend and he was telling my W that he and the girlfriend felt sorry for my W's current job situation. My W said it made her feel real angry and like put down and she was real pissed at him and he was acting like a snotty tool. I basically validated her feelings and told her I thought what she did was very worthwhile and important and that she was great at it. That I was proud of her and respected the choices she had made in her career. She thanked me for listening to her with all kinds of eye contact. Then I said I had to go. She followed me out and kept saying thanks with a sweet tone to her voice.
Went and met friends and played poker and watched football the rest of the afternoon. Going to workout now.
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