Make sure he knows where I'm coming from. If I'm hurt, express hurt; If I'm sad, don't be afraid to cry. When I told him what my IC said, I think I was so 'matter of fact' that I might as well have been telling him my car needed an oil change. So it's not a surprise he didn't fully grasp what I might have been needing in that moment.
Know that exposing my feelings and thoughts will make me feel vulnerable. So it's likely I might hide what I'm really feeling from myself and him to avoid feeling that vulnerability. Maybe before sharing something important with him again, I should write out my thoughts and feelings about it first. That way I will have a better idea of what I'm needing from him - if I just need him to listen; or if I need to be held and comforted.
Last edited by FindingMyVoice; 09/20/1002:54 AM.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
