Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[john28]

Good. Congratulations on the golf tournament! When she starts demanding the "I love you's" tell her that she has rejected you time and again and you are not attracted to her the way she is acting. You can't say that what you feel is love.

If she had stayed longer at Retrouvaille, she would have learned that love is a decision. She has decided that she will not love you. She has told it to you again and again. Since love is a decision, not to love is also is a decision. That is the choice she has made. She can stop saying she loves you when she has clearly decided NOT to love you. She cannot overcome her own decision unless she makes a new, opposite decision. But where she is today, I guarantee you, is decidedly not loving you.

Where were you 1 hour ago? More drama since then.

She called me and gave me whole, why didn't you answer my calls, why didn't you talk to me, yada yada. I told her I was busy, my Dad was in town, which I was. I didn't tell her I didn't want to talk to her.

So she gives me the whole, stop pursuing me I don't want to be with you right now speech, and I'm like "wtf, i haven't been." She's trying to pull me in. Same crap behavior.

Then we get off the phone. I have told her that I loved her a couple of times throughout the conversation when she has said it first, then we hang up and I just say bye, no ILY. We normally end our conversations with "ILY, bye bye". Nope not this time from me. She said it first, and I just said bye.

Not 5 minutes goes by and she's chatting me on fb saying "Why don't you say ILY anymore.. blah blah". I didn't know what to do so I just said it wasn't a big deal. She says it was, I say sorry didn't notice. Anyways, so I say, "Sounds like you don't want to say it anymore, which is OK." She replies back that she wants to, and we should say it forever to each other because we should always love each other, we have a kid together and we have a shared history.

I reply back that is utter bullshit. That the "always love, kids, history" isn't enough to keep us together? I just give give her a sigh. She says you know why we can't be together right now, but maybe we can in the future but not the near future. Ugh - more crap behavior.

I almost ask her how her future boyfriend or spouse would feel about telling their X that they love them on the phone. But I didn't

I really want to call her and say what you said Lotus - that she is NOT acting from a place of love for me. She is acting from the oposite. She isn't choosing love. She is choosing the opposite.