Buffet ...tearful scenes of wanting to get back together and be a family again. She at different times has told me that she has broken up with OM, she wants to start to go to counseling, she wants us to be together, she misses her old life, she wants our S2 to grow up in one home not 2, etc etc etc....
Insincere, cake-eating guilt assuaging ,imo.
Originally Posted By: Buffet
The problem is that it is all BS.
Yep.
Originally Posted By: Buffet
But the times that I have told her that and said that I would be willing to work on things she either a) pulls back completely (normal i know) or b) lies and gets caught--about OM, than blows up and *blames me for all of her problems.
You are answering your own questions, you know.*Guilt assuaging.
Originally Posted By: Buffet
...Whenever this happens she usually ends up showing up at my house in tears begging for "one more chance" and hence the circle of crap starts all over again...
Detach, go dark, N/C, establish &enforce boundaries. You are being played by a Script-Master.
This has gotta be tough on you. Put a stop to it.
Originally Posted By: Buffet
So I don't know if I am looking for advice, insight, encouragement, 2x4's or what??
My guess is you're looking for validation of what you already know deep down.
Peace,
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
