My W keeps things to herself... It drives me crazy... Me I am an open book for the most part.
We all have "secrets" mine was / is keeping the affair my wife had "under wraps" Some say I should have exposed it and It would not have taken me 3 years to get where I am today. However....keeping it a "secret" Is something I choose to live with and it's hard I admit but it has made it easier to face friends and family now that we seem to be back on the right track.
Maybe a little advice about "your secret"... Expose it to your H on a Need to know basis… I do not know your H but exposing information about US does leave us vulnerable. You are exposing your heart / feelings with trust. I totally “trusted” my wife when she told me she was going to see her high school GF that weekend she meet up with the OM… and it hurt to find out that trust was violated.. Be careful BTW No need to explain anything about your secret especily here on this board. It’s YOUR personal matter...
I am not a real doctor but I like “playing” doctor sometimes
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
