Quote: I have had a few conversations with her where I said very plainly and clearly---that I refuse to be her 2nd choice, that I would prefer that we put the work into making us whole again but I would not do it from a one-sided position and that she needs to be as committed to it as I am. And further if she is unwilling to do those things than she needs to leave me alone and stop trying to make attempts at "fake reconciliation". Whenever this happens she usually ends up showing up at my house in tears begging for "one more chance" and hence the circle of crap starts all over again..........
I think you should take your advice ^ from above and run with it.
Remember anyone can you what they want to do, but it is the ACTIONS behind those words that are telling.
If she is not willing to live and die by those words she is just blowing smoke at you.
Is she telling you the truth when she says she is not with the OM?
