people who are angry can be vindictive and spiteful, she hasn't been treating you that great for the longest amount of time either, is this really so out of character for her?
This is why I said you can't wait for her "OK" to see your kids, go get them from school and the daycare and have them at your place for a few days, let her get used to you not sitting down and doing nothing because that's pretty much what you're doing.
