Happy Days are Here Again :)

[mishka422]

HUGE hugs BBJ. So sorry you went through this crap again with Dan.

I guess the question you have to ask yourself every time there is even the remote possibility of having to interact with Dan is "When Dan gets in a snit about what I'm doing, how am I going to allow it to effect me?"

We all know there is no way to sidestep Dan's craziness for the rest of your life, but you are able to avoid possible situations. Honestly, when you said that you had been talking to Dan's cattle partner, I saw some possible red flags. This guy is involved in Dan's business. Regardless of how much you like this guy and his wife and kids, it's just not a good idea to be friendly with someone who is so involved in Dan's life. That can't lead to anything good. Sometimes you just have to give up friends who have more ties to the former spouse than to you.

As far as his gf is concerned, you know in your head there is nothing you can or should do about that. Dan is going to implode at some point or he will get his head out of his butt and be a real man. Nothing you do, say, reiterate, or claim will make any difference to him. He will continue to think whatever it is that makes him better able to deal with his own betrayal of his family.

Letting go of that pain and anger is going to take a lot longer if you keep letting him bait you like this. Since he can't seem to keep track of information you give him via phone or text then communicate only via email with him. You have written records of every detail you give him. If he gets abusive in emails to you like he did on the phone then you have written record of that too. I wouldn't put it past him to eventually try to have your D agreement nullified because he gets his panties in a twist. Protect yourself legally, financially and emotionally. DO NOT TALK TO HIM......period. You can't be friends with an unreasonable person.