Women have been emotionally manipulating men since Adam and Eve. Your STBXW will cry, sob, sound depressed, abuse you, curse you, annoy you, and take any other action she believes will get her what she wants. Up to now, it has largely been a successful effort, so it's not too hard to understand why she continues to do it.
Understand this, there is nothing (let me repeat that...there is nothing) you can do that will appease her. This is a mistake made by many (myself included). She will take everything she can whether you are kind or horrid to her. The only difference will be how much she gets out of you in advance before ripping you a new one in court.
Tell your L that it's time to wrap it up. The longer this goes, the worse it will be for you. Finish the D as quickly as the court will allow and at all costs. It's the only way the two of you will be able to disconnect from the situation and each other.
