...I definitely have some things of my own to work on.
...I am shy;
...I am timid;
...I am inhibited;
...I am a pleaser
...Additionally, I am sensitive and easily offended, but slow to forgive. These days I have little patience, am quick to anger and defensiveness always lies just below the surface.
...I have been working on making new friends and spending more time doing things that I enjoy.
....There have been times when I felt guilty (there's that word again) not spending the time or attention on my husband,
...It is often confusing for me because he is very needy for my time and attention, but he is not good at reciprocating, maybe this is one of the Love Languages things?
...Another thing that I have a hard time with is the 180 concept. I am such a reaction person that I have a hard time stopping myself from the typical behavior. It is something that I definitely will give more thought to.
I think that you know both yourself and your husband very well. I think that you have just about everything you need to start making a huge change in your life. You are fully capable of changing your life for the better.
By your own words, your GAL or 180 should address "shy, timid, inhibited, pleaser, sensitive, easily offended, slow to forgive, spending time with your husband, and changing your responses."
Belly Dancing or pole dancing exercise, if practiced at home with your husband would address shy, timid, inhibited and time with you husband.
Of course karate could address shy, timid, and getting control of your emotions. Martial arts are great for giving a person a feeling of self confidence and ability to control ones emotions.
Affirmations, (audio tapes you listen to where you repeat out loud statements about how good you are and happy you are with yourself) are very powerful as is visualization for changing your life.
Figure out what you want (and it sounds like you already have) to improve in your life and then make plans to make it happen.
You can do it. Good luck to you and your husband. I hope that you find the happiness that you deserve. Try something outside your comfort zone.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
