Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

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We never even got to the stipulations. He said my plan of moving back made more sense (I mentioned a few days ago to him) since the kids and I will have support there. He wants to be left alone here to sort himself out (his words). We are officially separating, not sure if that means we will ultimately D, but I feel 95% certain that is what will happen once we are 500 miles apart.

He has agreed to me having full legal custody, we are working out long distance visitation. He wants to talk to me 2x a week at night about what is going on in the kids lives and be kept up to date. He says I can have all the money and he'll support me and them forever....

He also changed the password on the cell phone account, but luckily I can create my own account with my own phone number and log in anyway. I can see they each texted 2x this afternoon but overall he is not contacting her via phone still. I will be running to print records as far back as I can asap.

I am also contacting a lawyer in our current state Monday - it is a fault state. I want our agreement to be drafted immediately while we still agree on things. If he decides to mess around with me, I will pursue the fault based divorce and have OW deposed and drawn into this in court. I don't think he will want that so hopefully we can both be respectful and keep the verbal agreements we had going last night.

Driving back the 500 miles to home state tomorrow to go lease an apartment because that is what he wants. He believes that he will never be happy and without him the kids and I have a shot at happiness. For the first time EVER he also said last night that he would consider counseling. I asked him how his self medicating (tobacco, alcohol, and now sex) was working and if it wasn't working that he should think about trying something else.

Today was a sad day. I am trying to stay focused on what I need to do but I'm grieving what I perceive as the death of my family.