She's in MLC, but I was weak. Now what?

[MHL]

To answer your question briefly before going back to my thread, I've got that same old limbo feeling. Maybe have a little less anger, maybe not.

Okay, you have been on vacation....me too lets get back to work on your sitch.

The limbo feeling, lets deal with that one first.... IMO there are two parts to dealing with this, Patience and the LBS cycling.

Patience first because that is universal no matter what.....you have a house that you are working on right????? so much to do but you know that it is going to take TIME....right??? You knew that from the get go.

Let me remind you that repairing your failed marriage is no different and you have a lot invested in your M so it is worth while......RIGHT?????

At minimum your kids are worth it.

You posted to my thread, Great!!! no hijack apology needed someone will benefit from reading it, and that I like...so thanks....keep on hijacking.

Since you posted, that means you came to the forum and that means you are at least interested in the R with your W, reconciled or divorced???

If this is the case then you need to go down to the local Costco/BJ's?/Sam's Club and pick up a SUPER SIZE BOX of PATIENCE, no matter what your "end" goal is.....got it??????

GOOD

NEXT......LBS Cycling....I love her....I hate her..... I don't care....I love her....I hate her....etc.

I get it, I living it man.....if Im living it then its normal, b/c Im a normal guy....LOL

You have children with this woman and you will have a R with her forever, no matter what so the question becomes "how will I treat her when I have to interact with her?"

I guess this somewhat depends where your R is with her now. I see that back in August you guys were in MC. GREAT!!!! if she is done with the EA/PA.....is she done???

IMO if she is not done with EA/PA then MC is a waste of time and money and if your counselor doesn't agree then they SUCK and you should stop seeing them....period.

If this where things are at then you lay down a boundary and stick to it......that is if you are still interested in saving your M.

CNS,
Are you interested in saving your M???? If not then there would be a different course. I am interested in saving my marriage so I have a plan for how to treat my W when I have to interact with her.

This plan has changed, but it has always been out of love for my W and if you are still processing feelings of anger then you need to detach a little more.....easier said then done.

CNS, let us know what is going on. Tell us about it. We are here to help. You could pay thousands in therapy but never get the advice and support you will get here.

I know it is tough to see your W because of your kids....I KNOW. Tell us more and we can help.