This is a typical MLC reaction. For some insights in the MLC mind, it would do you a great deal of good to go and visit Upside's thread "Withdrawal and Acceptance." Cyrena and I have posted some insights into the MLC process.
And please do all of us a favor here? Please NO R talk or even bring up any R talk unless H brings it up first. Remember it is all crazymaking on H's part. You want to bring up the R talk because you want your own pain to stop. It just makes things more harder and complicated.
Just slap the duct tape on your mouth when you feel the itch or urge to bring up R talk with your H. He is NOT your best friend nor engaged in the marriage at the moment. He is your roommate and treat him as such.
Good job on asking H not to bring the OW to the festival. Nice boundary. However, I want to you to be careful not to appear too "controlling" to H.
However, I want to you to be careful not to appear too "controlling" to H.
