You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[ClingingToHope]

Antlers, what I've seen on a lot of these threads and in my situation is the WAS acts exactly opposite of how they did or said they wanted to.

I remember a year before we split up, STBXW was down and I was trying to get her to go out with her friends. She mostly just sat and moped all weekend.

She said she couldn't go out with her coworkers because she's a supervisor. And she couldn't go out with her best friend because she didn't want to be hanging out getting drunk in dive bars.

So the M blows up and now she either heads north to hang out at country and western bars watching a coworker's husbands band play or in a small town 30 minutes from here with her best friend getting drunk at dive biker bars.

I was heading to a softball game the other day and a couple of 40ish women came out of a bar with their biker jackets on. I thought of STBXW and wondered if that's how she looks on the weekends. I'm not attracted to that type at all.

Really tired today. D11 is at a birthday party and staying over night. D8 and I picked up a friend and went swimming at the health club. Now they are watching TV. Should be a quiet night at home.

Interesting thing last night. At the Friday night church group, I had the girls and the woman who is really struggling with anger in my Tuesday class was there. She's in her mid-40s and looks really good for her age -- when she's not angry.

So I waved to her and we all walked in together and D11 asked me as I was checking them in if I "like, liked" her.

I said no, no. She's a friend from class.

Later, as I was putting her to bed, I told D11 that I would tell them if I met someone I "like, liked." I wouldn't just spring her on them.

D11 told me I "need" to find someone. She worries I'm unhappy. I told her not to worry, but I've done that before. They think I'm sitting around moping all the time. I tried to tell them that it's kind of the opposite, I tend to do too much.