What I meant, Dan, was your own personal/internal response not so much the response you give your W.
Your W has no interest in your response right now and she may never have an interest again. But you *will* have a life after a divorce and there is a good chance that life will include another wife or long term R one day.
Much of your internal response to being left (all of us, not just you per say) must be centralized on healing, learning and future preparations. And for some time to come the WAS is not part of any of that.
