IR,
Catching up with you after a respite from the boards. You are getting EXCELLENT, DEAD-ON advice, here.

When the advice goes against your grain, makes you cringe, it is the Mr. Nice Guy in you that is cringing and I would suggest that that reaction is a sure sign that the advice is dead on and you should heed it.
Originally Posted By: ImprovedRomeo
Part of me still believes there lives a nomal STBXW in there somewhere...
I understand this. We all have this part in us at some time and up to a certain point.

But, IR, sadly, it just isn't so.

Peace,

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac