Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

Fact is, I'm not responsible for her cheating...she is responsible for that all on her own.

Exactly, they have other options than cheating but they feel justified to do it. However, again, it eventually catches up with them and when it does it too becomes your fault.

Yeah, another option would have been to not cheat, stay in the marriage, go to counseling with me, not tear our family apart, and be happy about the changes that I was making (the changes that she'd wanted me to make all along).