1) Why doesn't he make firm plans for our next visit? I'm worried he'll just disappear again. 2) Why did he go back into the "relationship chest"? (That's the hard-to-reach place where he found my journal.) I moved my journal out of there, but it still holds a lot of relationship books. He went back in and left it half open - so surely I would notice! Why did he do that? 3) Why was he distant from me when we last parted? Is it because of something I did (e.g., pushing things too far by texting him that he'd better answer or not bother coming over) or is it just his own mindset of still needing space? 4) Why did he nonetheless leave some stuff over here? 5) Is he basically on the way out again?
imho, 1) He waits until it's convenient for him and keeps you hanging: a power trip. 2) He is totally boundary-less. And is flaunting it: "I'll look at what I want where and when I want, and I'm not only invading your treasured, intimate readings, I'm making sure you know it." Power trip, again. 3) Because your interpretation of the evidence notwithstanding, he is totally distant. 4) Boundaryless, again. Reason to come back. Flaunting again, I'll do what I want where I want and when I want. 5)Has he ever really come back? Honestly?
I think you should back off, set a couple of boundaries, enforce them and drop the intimacy.
BeginningAgain's dead on.
Peace,
Last edited by Gardener; 09/18/1006:30 PM.
Gardener
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