If she is too stressed to work on the R or even herslef at the moment, how does she ever get out of crisis mode?
Isn't being in crisis mode for a while exactly what a lot of us need so that we can start working on ourselves and our relationships? I think we figure out how to get out of crisis mode, by being in it for awhile.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.