Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

I have no intention of communicating with her about anything. If communication needs to happen regarding the kids, I will weigh it heavily and decide whether or not it really needs to be made.

I think, in my case, she made up her mind to leave long before she actually left. And the fact that there was someone else involved made her decision easier...maybe even provided some motivation. Any grieving that was done by her, if any, was probably done before she left. She obviously wanted to divorce. She's no longer a person that I know, that's for sure. I can remember her telling me, shortly after the separation and during the separation that "I don't even know who you are anymore!"