I can't speak for all guys... heck half the guys I know would have left my wife and kicked the OM's @ss if they were in my sitch. However....
What I think you did was great... I think (and wish) that all husbands and wives would be so open and honest as you were with things like you were. You can never understand where a person’s thoughts and feelings come from unless you know their life’s experiences... An example...someone might be terrified about being in an elevator...now most of us may think that is silly... but we did not know that this person once in their past was trapped in an elevator for 10 hours becasue is malfunctioned. They were trapped in the dark... with stuffy air...no water... (Or bathroom)... So you see if.... now you can understand why they are afraid of elevators.... As for "But here's my question. Should I have given him a suggestion as to what I would have hoped he'd say? I always wonder if guys look at that as helpful, or if it makes them feel like we're 'leading them around by the nose'? Any thoughts? Thanks in advance, FMV."
No you should not give him a suggestion of what HE should say. But you should ask if he really understood what you were saying. Sometimes there is a mis communication... I know this happens with my wife and me all of the time. So tell him what you want him to know and make sure he understands where you are coming from. They ask him if he understands...sometimes you need to explain things several different ways to make it clear...The rest is up to him
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
