I can comment on this...since I am now on the other side...reconciled for several years, happily...
My H initially told me had been unhappy/miserable for several years...then it became 10 yrs...then it became OVER 10 yrs...then I finally heard this, "The worst day of my life was when I married you."...I don't remember my dad holding a gun to his head, don't remember forcing him to propose to me, I actually don't remember seeing a miserable man until his "trigger" for his MLC happened...
So NO, he has not been miserable your whole marriage, you are not unloveable...no one is!...Your H has to say/believe this to justify and go on like he is...the point here is one day, hopefully, he will realize that all this misery and unhappiness had NOTHING to do with you...sure, you aren't perfect...you made mistakes...but so is he and so did he...it is called being HUMAN...and if you weren't miserable chances are pretty good that in truth, neither was your H!
