Still trying to find my way

[newmama]

oh and I am grateful for my son, my son is in good health, I have a roof over my head, a job, health insurance, my SIL who helps more than my own family, this forum, my weight loss, friends, and coffee. I know this is your thread but had to share my gratitude list!

[Mystik]

Bluestar ~ That’s my plan. My lawyer hasn’t e-mailed me back yet but I’ve been acquiring all the papers. Got everything for the medical and childcare expenses. Just need to get my bank statements, then will set up another consultation with her when I have the extra money to get the legal advice.

Newmama ~ It certainly is its own brand of Hell, the situations our WH’s have created. I didn’t think about a backlash but you’re right, there will be one if it ends up going to court. I’ll give him a chance to avoid that, first. And great gratitude list, I need to do mine still. Feel free to share away.

[Mystik]

Wow, H is really not getting it. I texted him this morning to tell him about DS’s appointment and that I’d text him when it was done, he replied “Thank you”. A few hours later he texted to ask where it was, I replied with the address. Then a few hours after that he texted asking if it would make more sense for him to just keep DS longer on Sunday instead of getting him late today because of the appointment. He also texted that he” really f’ing misses DS but wants to make the most of his time”. I replied that he would be getting DS at regular time, just not sure where. Either home or the office, meaning my place or the doctor’s. About an hour later he texted to say it only took him an hour but he was home. I was confused a moment wondering why he was texting me that, I thought that he sent it to the wrong person then realized he thought I meant his home. So I texted back, “So I guess he’ll see you tomorrow?” H responded “Really thought you were going the other way with that.” I didn’t answer. And H didn’t say anything more either.

[Mystik]

I think I figured out what to do about Open House to avoid having to do everything with H. I’ll skip the first 15 minutes where parents can meet the PTA and check out the community clubs and stuff, such as Cub Scouts. I’ll go for the “Meet the Teachers” thing at 6:15, then help the PTA with preparing the refreshments until it’s time to go see DS’s teacher. I’ll wait a bit to let H have a chance to go and leave, then I’ll go to meet her and see how DS is doing. Then I’ll head home to pick up DS from my sister’s and bring him home to settle down for bed. I will talk to H about it, though, and make sure he is going to be attending alone.

[Mystik]

And the sad part? DS was excited that he was going to stay with me instead of going with his father. DS hasn't seen H since Sunday, you'd think he'd miss him by now and want to see him. But he didn't.

[Mystik]

Not a peep from H today. Really really missing him right now and not having DS isn't helping. So I'm missing both of them.

[TimeHeals]

Not a peep from H today. Really really missing him right now and not having DS isn't helping

Good Gawd, woman, he's seeing somebody else and treats you like crap. How would you like living with somebody who was seeing somebody else and treating you like crap?

Time to think about that gratitude list. If you get past this hump, you will be stronger, and then you can be thankful for it because it made you stronger.

[Tay Tay]

Not a peep from H today. Really really missing him right now and not having DS isn't helping

Good Gawd, woman, he's seeing somebody else and treats you like crap. How would you like living with somebody who was seeing somebody else and treating you like crap?

Time to think about that gratitude list. If you get past this hump, you will be stronger, and then you can be thankful for it because it made you stronger.

Yes he may have treated her like crap but that does not stop her from loving him. I think that you have to let yourself feel your emotions from time to time. You can't always be strong. That was her husband...they had some good times together. She is not just going to never think about him. I speak from experience...yes my husband did me wrong but I still miss him. I am sitting here alone on a Friday night when normally he would be here holding me. I am strong but that does not stop me from thinking about it and missing him. Mystik be real with your emotions. You can feel the way you want to feel. You can cry if you want to cry. Just know that you will make it and everything will be alright.

[Mystik]

TH ~ I am working on that gratitude list. Not sure that I'll ever feel grateful for this situation, though.

TayTay ~ That's exactly where I'm coming from. I'm remembering the good times and missing them, missing the H I knew. I have a 6 year old, too. But sadly, he's an only. H swore up and down he didn't want more kids. Yeah, well, we know how that went.

[courageous wife]

hi mystik

You know what? I just read this on someone else's thread...your H may be doing whatever it is he is doing with OW and all that...BUT, he cannot take those good memories away from you! Embrace them!!!

Your gratitude list is not necessarily about your situation! It can be about anything!!! What in your life, right now, are you grateful for? I bet son is #1...there, got ya started....

You've been to my thread and you know I have been down the last couple of days! But, there is so MUCH to be thankful for!!! One day at a time...one thing at a time! Hang in there sweetie!!!