Doing good. Working far too much. Things are progressing with H an I. He emails at least once a day. He is beginning to talk "future" plans. I am taking it easy and trying to keep expectations to zero.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Thank you both! I am feeling quite good these days. Spending time really getting into more permanent fitness routine - cardio and running. I am planning on running a half marathon in November. I think this and the focus on me is helping to keep me grounded.
I remember when I first arrived here on the boards...boy was I a mess!!! I thank everyone so very much because you all said that I would begin to feel better and begin to think more clearly about it all.
I think being a little selfish about me was what I needed. I always thought first about my H, then others, and myself last. I misplaced me..who I was separate from everyone else. It has been interesting getting to know me again.
Hey, anyone in San Fran? I am heading that way in about a week to attend a conference. Looking forward to having some fun incorporated between briefings and such. I hope everyone has a good day!!!! (((HUGS)))
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Good evening fellow DB friends. Wanted to give everyone an update on my sitch. I have my moments of sadness, but not so much where I am overcome by grief. I thank this forum for that...
My H called me today (it has been a couple of days). He seemed distant and I asked if he was okay. He said: "with our situation, I don't want to say the wrong thing". I am not sure what this meant and didn't pursue it, but I wonder if he is rethinking rebuilding the marriage.
He says he wants me to talk everyday (either through mail or phone calls); but when we talk, it is always all non-R talk. He seems incredibly sad and has said he wishes he were home. He said he is not able to smile or laugh until when or if he comes home. He is saying he loves me and misses me, but I have been worried. Is his and my behavior normal?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Sounds like he might be in depression or withdrawal stage. And everything would be completely normal for MLC. Keep your expectations low, and treat him like a good friend.
Thanks Lance. I will definitely re-read the materials on depression and withdrawal. He wrote this morning and said he has good days and bad days - and there are days when he still don't know what to do and other days where he is completely sure that we need to fix everything and get on with life.
He says he have no right to interfere with me simply going out and enjoying yourself while he is deployed. And he welcomes the thought of me doing a little soul searching and being sure that he is right for me as well. He then said: "You've changed a lot since we first got together, so it's probably important for you to try and objectively understand if I am the rigth person for you - and if you going on a date or two to talk to other guys about life helps you understand that, then that's all good."
Is this a good thing. I don't want to have any expectations, but he asked me to try and now it appears that he is rethinking everything. Darn!!!
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
I am so unsure of everything now. It appears that he is still not sure after he pretty much tried to convince me that we MUST try. I am trying to not to go into the pit, but it is calling me....
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
