This is where you took the bait. She asked about the kids. You know they are OK because they are with you. Then you asked her 'what's wrong'. You took the bait. Maybe a response to shut her down could be - "the kids are fine, we're having fun. Thanks for checking in".
Why did you ask if something happened? If it's her personal life, don't ask. You don't have it in you to continue the bullchit she's tossed you over the last 2 years, don't encourage it. If you were curious, then ask yourself, why am I curious about her life?
That's what I'm talking about. You would have saved a lot of brain power. If you think by encouraging further conversation you'll get more insight about what she's thinking, she's proved over and over again that she will blindside you and she will lie. So, really, outside of conversations about your kids, nothing else matters.
Does that make sense? WT
Crystal clear. I guess I should have elaborated a bit more where the 'why did something happen?' question arose from. She's been bending over backwards trying to find, trap me in, fabricate, etc, reasons why I am an 'unfit' parent and the kids should be with her most of the time.
The first thing I did when I saw the text was to check the house and my cell phone. Sometimes the kids will get into some trouble with her when they're with her then they'll call me. So my first inclination was maybe one of them dialed her number. They were both playing so there wasn't anything that would have prompted them to call her. No phone calls out to her on either phone.
It was more of a curious about where she was coming from as far as the kids 'not being ok'. Maybe something in school. A phone call from a teacher, etc...
That's more of where the question generated from than a curiosity of her personal life. I've gotten to the point where the less I know the better. Of course my kids talk and that's how I found out she spent a few days with OM and got a hotel with him when I was in Colorado.
In her ignorance she talks to the kids about this stuff when it's unnecessary. In the end it becomes her undoing because it's all documented and I'll give it to the psychologist when I have to meet with him. We'll probably have to go for a follow up since she's making a big fuss about the kids not being ok with the custody schedule we're doing.
The only poking around I'm doing is to collect some evidence about OM strictly for the reason she has brought the kids around him a few times already. From a D standpoint or my own knowing it doesn't mean anything, but as far as her making poor decisions that affect the kids it has an impact.
Enough about me...
So what are you going to do with the warm and fuzzy feeling?
How are things with you? Still in school? Come on now, don't hold out - give me the scoop on what you've been up to and how you're doing besides stalking me from afar...lol.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
