I am not controlling my W. First of all she wants me to make the decision and pay for it as well. That is what she has done since I have known her. When it comes to $$ my W is tighter than two coats of paint. The second point is that I don't want her to speak with a lawyer and get into a financial pi$$y fit. She does not want anything from me...just a simple uncontested D.
Thank you for your support. I retained the L and file next week. He will work with my W to schedule when the docs. get served. I am not sure what my next move will be other than GALing and detaching further so that emotionally I am ready for anything.
Thank you for your support. I retained the L and file next week. He will work with my W to schedule when the docs. get served. I am not sure what my next move will be other than GALing and detaching further so that emotionally I am ready for anything.
Nothing much to report here. I retained a L and he began to file papers today. He told me that the whole thing will take 4 to 5 months of mostly waiting. I cannot help but think this is making the D easy for her both financially and emotionally since I am doing all of the heavy lefting. But eventually she will have to grow up some until she finds her next "host"...I know a little attitude slipped out.
I am still getting her mail delivered to my home. Most of it is junk CC offers so I think that I Return to Sender, but there are a few parcels that are important. I plan to take a vacation next week and focus on myself and GALing and having a great time. I am not sure what to do next with regard to DBing other than GAL continue to detach to prepare for the inevitable.
I would like to use my new Cary Grant immitation on my W, but unfortunately I don't think I will get the chance. So I will have to perfect it so that I can use it later. Maybe this could be a new GAL hobby.
I noticed today that my STBXW had not been on her dating site in over 3 days...maybe there is someone else and maybe that is why she is comfortable asking for the D. The L should have all of the docs complete this week and I assume that he has spoken with my STBXW regarding when she wants to be served.
The question is, how should I proceed from here? I have been relatively dark even though there are simple maintenance issues that keep cropping up that my STBXW needs to address, e.g. mail, her work calling, and odds & ends. I will probably donate the odds & ends stuff to a charity. However, I really do not want to call my STBXW about the other stuff.
I am really getting use to not thinking about her too much...I know that I have my moments, but they are beginning to few and far between. I know I looked at the dating site, which is a no no and only speculation, but it had been a while since I checked it.
Maybe you could shoot her an email or call her and leave a message telling her she should have her mail forwarded to her new place and that her work keeps calling at your home, etc.
Do not go back to look at the dating website. It will do you no good.
