Thanks for your advice. I was pretty set in letting her file until I met with my L and he told me that based on the pre-nup, which he thought was strong (but found out differntly) and my financials I make twice what my W makes that if she wants to dig into my financials and take portions of my 401k, pension, etc. she could.
Right now she is telling me that she wants a uncontested D and does not want anything from me. I guess guilt for all of the years taking care of her both financially and educationally. My L says that I need to kiss her a$$ and the best way to do that is to file assume all cost and tell her that since it uncontested that she could work with my L (again all ethical).
I don't plan to give up on my M. I will continue to GAL and detach...I am okay now, but I need to continue so when things begin to roll I will be okay. I will continue 180's email her sparringly and respond accordingly and be the best me that I can be. Coach is right I need to be attractive and that is what I plan to be with my W as well as with everyone I meet.
I am proud of what I have accomplished so far by losing 70+ pounds, from a 44/46 to a 34/36 waist. I am less agitated and angry though I know less about what is going on in the world and I am spending more time with my sons. We went rock climbing a few weeks ago and plan to go inside skydiving this Saturday.
