Well, I kind of wanted to check in and let everyone on here know that I want to thank them for all of the help I have gotten. I had to go back and reread a lot of what I wrote and responses. But I must admit, I still did not get it. I didnot understand what you people were talking about helping myselfand all of the things you were saying. What I discovered is that I was goingthrough the motions and doing it but not all the way. I did not discover this until I started reading No More Mr. Nice Guy. Thisis when I finally realized my real issues in this whole disaster. I caused more than I thought in the problems in our marriage. I recognize that she has a lot to do with it as well. She never has been able to talk about her feeling and a lot of other problems. But those are her problems, I have my own. I am almost done with the book, so my only complain with the book is there is not more detailson how to fix my way of thinking. So maybe now I can go to my IC and set up a strategy for fixing me.
Wife finally decided to go to IC and also get her diabetes fixed. This happened after I started makeing some changes based on the things I learned in No More Mr. Nice Guy. So she does not want to discuss relationship, and that is great becasue I think we need time to concentrate on ourselves and when we both are more comfortable with ourselves than we can look at maybe fixing the marriage. I wish someone out tehre hit me with an Iron 2 x 4 like my wife did to me months ago so that I would have started on the road to recovery sooner. But better late than never. The wife has not left the house yet, and things do seem a little better.
