Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[Dagny-2]

Wow MM, You have a lot on your plate right now.

I don't even know what to say, you have some very real concerns and huge decisions. One thing that came to mind when I read it was that you can't control his actions, you can't create a safe enviornment for him, you have done that with the family and moving, yet he isn't respecting it.

Are you ready to make the decision about moving back to the hometown? This is a huge decision and if you aren't ready, I wouldn't do it yet. I think it is okay to talk to him, listen to what he says and then tell him you need to think more about it or you just don't know yet.

I'm not sure how your demands will go, if they are something that you could make right now, though I think that the IC one is critical for him. Does he really want you to stay? If so, maybe make the IC one, but I would leave the OW out of it. Make this about him and you, not her (probably just him right now, that is all he is hearing, anyway). A stay in a hotel for a month won't hurt anything, maybe it will give you the time to be able to make a decision that you feel confident/comfortable about. Do you have an IC? That could help you put things in perspective for yourself.

Good Luck, don't make any quick decisions from emotions, take the time to think them through.

Dagny