Well, MIL just inserted herself. Called (I ignored) then texted telling me Dan was at a farm sale out of town, could they have kids after school, did i mind, would i tell the office, etc.
I just replied that I had already taken care of it and it was fine.
Not sure if I ever mentioned it but Dan's sometime cattle partner, our mutual friend, Doug, texted me for my birthday last month. We have emailed some since then, I am glad he still wants to be my friend. No need to 'lose custody' of the friendship in the D. He emailed last week wanting to know when I was free to meet up and catch up on things. He is about the only one of Dan's friends who supposedly knows the whole situation (Dan told me last fall when he said he wanted to reconcile, that he had told Doug the situation and Doug said he was stupid for leaving!), so that could be interesting. I would never trash Dan, but I won't lie, either. Besides, I like Doug, his wife, and their kids. They are good people.
