So this is the the emailthat I sent to her:

"I have spoken with several mediators and a couple of lawyers and they all agree that the best approach for a uncontested divorce is that I would file and we would work with one lawyer to dissolve the marriage. I will retain the lawyer and have the documents prepared. I will send the contact information of the lawyer that I retain to you so that you can work with them to schedule a convenient time when you would be served the papers and for consultations."

Two minutes later I get a response from her "Sounds good" Thank you, W. She doesn't want to pay or do the heavy lifting. I feel like a door mat, but the L tell me that we need to kiss hew a$$ because she has the better hand financially.