No promises, but I seem to be over my Anger Phase, or at least it's on vacation. Having no contact helps.
PLUS, I opened another Email and rejoined Facebook under an alias. How brave of me. I'm starting to feel like La Femme Nakita. Now how do I find the group?
And, I have something to look forward to. Vampire Diaries is on tonight, and Damon is sooooo hot. (I'm a grandmother, I'm not dead)
Morning everyone. Didn't make it onto Little Friday last night. Just rejoining Facebook almost made me hyperventilate. I did look at the site, did see some of your faces. Hey True, you are cute! You remind me a bit of an older version of my son-in-law.
My house is now officially on the website for sale, and I emailed the site to my H. Said nothing, just the link. It included about 15 very pretty pictures of the house and land.
Speaking of my son-in-law, I spoke with him last night, as he was keeping the kids at D24's house while she worked. He sounds pretty dejected. Says my D will hardly talk to him at all. I ask him to be patient and not push. I still pray she will come around.
SS & DIL are still separated. I have spoken to both and told them I am here to help either in any way I can.
D22 ( bipolar ) wakes up in a new world every day, so who knows?
I am wondering if God is trying to tell me that I should pray for my children over myself in this situation, our break up in March preceeding 3 our of 5 married children separating. I will not pry, but want them to all know how much I care, and will not take sides. For the most part, there seems no side to take. Just that marriage is hard and no one is willing to do the work.
Just that marriage is hard and no one is willing to do the work.
IMO - the work we all must do is ON ourselves. We come to this point when we can honestly look in the mirror and see where we went wrong. Once you see it (and it takes not looking at the spouse), you begin the process.
As you begin the work on YOU - your spouse may take notice and consider coming home. Either way it is a win win.
So if you do the work TO save your M...you just may set yourself up for failure.
Oh...and Gritty is a cutie ROTFLMAO....
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Thanks for your post. I know that, and YOU know that, but young people today ( don't I sound like a G-mother) just want to take the easy way out. I believe they call it a throw-away society. If this doesn't work, throw it out and get a new one. This may be TMI, but my D22, the bipolar one, has had such low self esteem, no matter how we've tried, she has messed around and caught HPV. Not that that couldn't have happened with one person, but it didn't in this case, and I know it. And the heartbreaking thing is she is a beautiful girl. I am told that all the time. She just wants to please and feel loved, but no one can love her enough. It's very sad.
I have been divorced and on my own with young children. I know it's no carnival ride, from the mom's perspective. And hearing from the men on this board, I see that at least for some men, it's no carnival ride for them either. I hurt for my kids, but at least it is taking my focus off of my H, who has more or less taken himself out of the picture where the kids are concerned.
Tomorrow makes 3 weeks since I have had any contact with my H, and that was when he got drunk and said he wanted to come home, then denied it 12 hours later. I feel envious of the people who still have some sort of contact with their spouse. Mine is 80 miles away. OW is keeping her thumb clamped down pretty tight. I know I'm not supposed to think about timelines, but exactly 2 months from today, I could be divorced. (Sigh)
I have to admit that I get up each and every day hoping I get something from him on Email. That I go to bed each night hoping tonight is the night he wakes me up with the doorbell. Feeling kind of stupid and worthless. We have been seperated for 6.5 months and I've seen him twice in that time. AHH, another fun filled weekend.
ROTFLMAO....