This is our time to hurt and grieve. Her time will come later. Karma's a real bitch.
My 2 cents for you would be to consider her gone, out of your life like a sist infection on your back. No talking, texting, etc. Don't tell her you're hurt, don't give her the privilege of even knowing that you exist. At this point you owe her NOTHING.
I know this a tough time for you and we're all feeling your pain through your words. Take time to acknowledge and accept it and then pull yourself up by your bootstraps, meet with a financial planner build and plan a roadmap for your life 2.0 and start working the plan. You've done it once you'll figure out a way to do it again.
Hang in there. You've made it to the top of the hump, it's all downhill from here.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again