Still, despite all of the mess of the past 10 months, I am sad about having to 'stick it to' my H, but I know that this is the best for me and D.
Lala, You are not "sticking it" to your H, you are doing what is right for you and your D and believe it or not you are doing what is right for your H also.
He is not in a frame of mind right now to be making sound financial decisions, obviously!!!! By taking control of your situation you are "lovingly" helping him. He will not view it that way but you know what needs to be done.
Originally Posted By: lala09
On a positive note, when I do flip out, I make sure to do it in private and am recovering much more quickly than I used to.
You are making progress on detaching, it takes time. The other thing that helps with detachment is focusing on you and not him. The more things you fill your life with the less room you will have to even worry about what you H is doing.
Cheers
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