WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[TimeHeals]

Although, I would like to work on our M, I understand that this is not what you want.

Not exactly the robx opening is it?

I have spoken with several mediators and L and they all agree that the best approach for a uncontested D is that I would file and we would work with one L to dissolve the M. I will retain the L and have the documents prepared. You can work with the L that I retain to sechedule when you would be served the papers. If this is okay with you, let me know and I will begin the process.

This part is strong.

[hurtinhartford]

TH,

Thanks! I knew I could count on your clarity and eloquence. I'm at the point that I am okay and have let go enough that my motive is not to get my W back, but to take care of myself.

Sure showing confidence and taking the lead might intrigue the W, but in the end is she really worth the hassle that I am going through? I know I caused the hurt that is the underlying reason for my sitch, but as John28 said a few weeks ago I can't blame myself entirely...it does take two to make a M work.

I will send the email out Friday AM. Talk with one more L so that I get a better feel than I had with the one I spoke with today. I will file early next week.

[soleil]

Sure showing confidence and taking the lead might intrigue the W, but in the end is she really worth the hassle that I am going through?

Ah. Such is "love."

That is great you found a L who you had a better rapport with. Very important.

And you are correct, it does take two to make a M work and 1 person to own their half.

[TimeHeals]

Ah. Such is "love."

"You know, sometimes I ask myself 'Ees eet worth eet?' and I answer myself 'YEEEEEES! EET EES WORTH EET!' VIVA L'AMOUR!!!!" --Pepe Le Pew

[ris]

"You know, sometimes I ask myself 'Ees eet worth eet?' and I answer myself 'YEEEEEES! EET EES WORTH EET!' VIVA L'AMOUR!!!!" --Pepe Le Pew

Did my trip to Paris inspire you?

[soleil]

Ah. Such is "love."

"You know, sometimes I ask myself 'Ees eet worth eet?' and I answer myself 'YEEEEEES! EET EES WORTH EET!' VIVA L'AMOUR!!!!" --Pepe Le Pew

Haha. He was always one of my favorite cartoons. Seriously. He did not care how many times he was rejected, he kept trying to find his True Looove. And so romantic. Always had flowers for his lady.

[hurtinhartford]

TH,

I am at the point that you were a month or two ago questioning my M and the state of the seperation. I know that my W will go dark once I get the ball rolling and file. The last email that I received from her two days before she left she couldn't wait for me to come home...I never knew I was that horrible to her that she feels compelled to not communicate with me.

I am wondering what I do next once the D action starts...LRT or still communicate occasionally to show her that I am okay with what is going on and that I am moving on...what is the protocal at this phase?

I do not plan to give up on our M even though I am truly setting her free. I will focus on GALing, which will help me to further detach...I love her, but I do not need her to ensure that my life is fulfilled. I wonder since she has totally isolated herself from me if she will ever regret the actions that she took. I guess I shouldn't care and one day I will not!

[hurtinhartford]

And one person to ruin a M. I did that two years ago with the OW. My W read a few of my text messages that I had sent to the OW and recited them on numerous occasions. In fact brought them up a day or two before she left...they were burned in her memory and was the catalyst for her leaving.

[Coach]

I have spoken with several mediators and L and they all agree that the best approach for a uncontested D is that I would file and we would work with one L to dissolve the M. I will retain the L and have the documents prepared. You can work with the L that I retain to sechedule when you would be served the papers. If this is okay with you, let me know and I will begin the process.

You just showed your hand. If your wife has a L then she is not planning on going this route. Does your W have a copy of the pre-nup? If so does does her L? Why would you ask if this is OK? If you have been advised to file first and have more info your pre-nup isn't as strong as you thought, your wife hasn't made any effort to be around you..... What are you waiting for? Filing isn't the end, it does make the BGPs ride up a little though.

[Coach]

I know that my W will go dark once I get the ball rolling and file.

What would be the difference?