I think he'll get that impression if you sound indifferent/cold when he brings up a conversation. I don't bring up R talks with my W anymore; but if she does, I'm all ears. Same with non-R talks. I bring those up, maybe not as much as before; but when she does, she gets my complete attention. It's a true 180 for our relationship and it does wonders. Who would have thought it could be so easy? And luckily for me, I really like hearing my W talk.
Well, I'm going to Paris. I've never been before. I have a friend who lives there and I'm going to meet up with her, but I'll do my own thing too. I'm pretty excited, though I get moments when I just wish that H was coming with me.
FMV, I'm going to experiment different things with writing my feelings down, I'll try this too. I just need to find something that will work for me.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
At the risk of mind reading, I'm pretty sure that the first one is how H perceives it. I don't think that's good, but I'd like someone else to chime in?
You never know.
A lot of men think, "Thank God, she stopped nagging me, give it a few weeks, and then everything will be good again".
I can't count how many men wound up on this site because their wives left them not too long after they had those very thoughts.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Have fun in Paris! The trash cans in McDonald's say "MERCI"
Pick up "The Time Paradox" by Philip Zimbardo and read it on the flight over
I'm taking "How can I get through to you" for the plane reading. "The Time Paradox" is waiting in line to be read though.
To paraphrase my question, is that good or bad kind of thinking, the "phew, she stopped nagging" one? I would rather be friendly, especially that it's how I really feel about it. If he started talking to me now, I wouldn't bite his head off but I don't think that he realizes it. Or am I afraid of the hostile situation just because I'm an appeaser?
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
Or am I afraid of the hostile situation just because I'm an appeaser?
I don't have any advice for you. If your husband were posting here, I'd have advice for him: just because she isn't arguing or complaining, doesn't mean this "cease fire" is a good thing. Time to step up and do your best Cary Grant impersonation, Guy.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I think most men would not want a woman to nag but as TH says, sometimes them avoiding the problems altogether and not commenting/trying to reconcile the issue with their lady lead to these sitches. It's very true. I have heard that before... men should be worried when their wife stops complaining. LOL.
