I told her what we talked about - and how if she was going to come back into this R I needed to invite her, and I hadn't done that yet. So, I invited her into the R. She said that she wanted more than anything to move back home, but she couldn't trust me now because of the way I've been "acting" toward her (i.e. - not being super friendly nice guy). I said OK, that's fine, I have invited you back into the R for now only.
This isn't like inviting a vampire into your house cause they need your permission to come in (well, actually, it is--I've been watching too much True Blood). LOL. You don't go through hell and then tell someone, "Hey, wanna come back to be with me, baby?" as if nothing has happened. No way, no how.
John, your relationship is toxic. Very, very unhealthy. You guys are like a bomb and a grenade together. It's no good.
